How do you define the edge in your life (what does it mean)?
How do you find your edge in yoga and in your life?
At this time it is far easier for me to recognize my edge when I am on the mat. Sometimes it comes as a distinct sharpness. Other times my edge establishes itself as the creeping doubt of exhaustion. Thoughts emerge such as, “I can't do this” or “I'm so tired/sore/thirsty/off balance.” These are excuses. Just thoughts. Being brought to my edge gives me an opportunity to learn. These messages signify what I need to do and help me understand all that I need to change. My body reminds me through these messages to eat more regularly and nutritiously, to drink more water and to sleep more consistently.
But how did I initially find my edge? What did it signify and how has it changed me? I knowingly met and experienced my edge for the first time during a Life Power class shortly after I started yoga teacher training. The studio was dimly lit, I was among thirty or forty other practitioners and my mat was in the back row. During one of our flow sequences the instructor called out for us to hold plank and continue to breathe; I had not anticipated this. My arms shook and were tired from the previous day's practice (the cumulative amount of chaturanga dandasanas was new to me). It was at this point I decided to go into child's pose to regain composure. A previous teacher had suggested child’s pose as a good place to go for rest between postures. I had just lowered down to my mat and was immediately called out for it – “Claire! We're in plank; come back. Stay with us!”
I find it extraordinarily humorous to encounter this essay topic, particularly at this time in my life. Perhaps it is just “that time” in the program and my experience is par for the course but I am finding that I have met my edge with this class – I want nothing more than to run from my practice! I am continuously tempted to drown out my dedication to the promises I have made to myself and others by doing other things with my time. I draw great comfort from the axiom “I am where I am supposed to be” and I am grateful to know that others in my class are experiencing this challenge as well... it is with this comfort that I share how I have found and define the concept of edge in my life.Sometimes I feel like my life is segmented: life on and off the mat. However, my increasing awareness has led me to believe that we are always practicing yoga. As Joel Kramer so eloquently states in Yoga as Self-Transformation, “at its core, yoga is a process that involves confronting your limits and transcending them. It is a psychophysical approach to life and to self-understanding that can be creatively adapted to the needs of the times” (Kramer, 165). What new students may not realize is that practicing yoga does not end when you leave the classroom. We all continue to face edges on our own, whether knowingly or not in the world beyond our mat. When we can come to this understanding we can learn how to embrace change and evolve into loving, trusting beings.
At this time it is far easier for me to recognize my edge when I am on the mat. Sometimes it comes as a distinct sharpness. Other times my edge establishes itself as the creeping doubt of exhaustion. Thoughts emerge such as, “I can't do this” or “I'm so tired/sore/thirsty/off balance.” These are excuses. Just thoughts. Being brought to my edge gives me an opportunity to learn. These messages signify what I need to do and help me understand all that I need to change. My body reminds me through these messages to eat more regularly and nutritiously, to drink more water and to sleep more consistently.
But how did I initially find my edge? What did it signify and how has it changed me? I knowingly met and experienced my edge for the first time during a Life Power class shortly after I started yoga teacher training. The studio was dimly lit, I was among thirty or forty other practitioners and my mat was in the back row. During one of our flow sequences the instructor called out for us to hold plank and continue to breathe; I had not anticipated this. My arms shook and were tired from the previous day's practice (the cumulative amount of chaturanga dandasanas was new to me). It was at this point I decided to go into child's pose to regain composure. A previous teacher had suggested child’s pose as a good place to go for rest between postures. I had just lowered down to my mat and was immediately called out for it – “Claire! We're in plank; come back. Stay with us!”
I went from feeling shame to owning my discomfort for what it was – not pain, simply
discomfort. As we held the posture and continued to breathe, the teacher proclaimed that we can all
benefit from recognizing our edge; understanding the difference between pain and discomfort.
“What we face on our mat is little to what we may face in our lives. Outside this room, outside this
time, you may come in contact with something that demands more from you. By knowing your
edge, you can persevere...” This poignant lesson has made me more willing to meet challenges on
my mat with courage and dedication, for I know with certainty that challenges such as holding or
deepening poses are minuscule in comparison to the challenges of life off the mat.
Although my awareness has grown more acute with daily practice, it remains more difficult for me to identify the edges in my daily living (off of the mat). However, I now understand why I have a tendency to act one way or another. I recognize that my avoidance or reluctance towards an activity signifies the presence of an edge.
The edge I most feel is my resistance to change. This corresponds directly with my ego's desire for control. I have always known that I don't like change. I have always done everything in my power to avoid it. Change has meant that I must let go of ways and things I know and understand. Change means I must make room for something new that I may or may not enjoy wholeheartedly. I have gotten better about this in recent years, but fear of change is still the biggest form of resistance that I face.
Kramer addresses resistance as “the way we build security in our life involves habits that we are often not conscious of. Some habits are necessary. [However, they can] become dangerous if we unconsciously let them direct our lives” (Kramer, 166). While Kramer does not say that we we must drop or reform all of our habits he does stress how being unaware can create tension in our bodies and prevent people from evolving physically and spiritually.
Furthermore, “resistance to doing yoga is often feedback that your practice has become stale and habit-bound” (Kramer, 167). While daily yoga practice is relatively new to my life – I can hardly imagine that my practice has become stale – I have found that my ego wants to edge it out altogether. I would rather forego my daily disciplines and stay within my comfort zone than discover something new or have to give up time spent with friends, family, food or actives I enjoy. Deepak Chopra has an affirmation on the importance of letting go of the ego, which I try to remember: by holding on to our egos (E-G-O) we are “Edging God Out.” Instead of making room for change, we cling to old habits which limit our growth. When we recognize the ego trying to take hold, it is important to remember to trust and to breathe, this helps us become more open, creating space for new life, opportunity and connections.
Although my awareness has grown more acute with daily practice, it remains more difficult for me to identify the edges in my daily living (off of the mat). However, I now understand why I have a tendency to act one way or another. I recognize that my avoidance or reluctance towards an activity signifies the presence of an edge.
The edge I most feel is my resistance to change. This corresponds directly with my ego's desire for control. I have always known that I don't like change. I have always done everything in my power to avoid it. Change has meant that I must let go of ways and things I know and understand. Change means I must make room for something new that I may or may not enjoy wholeheartedly. I have gotten better about this in recent years, but fear of change is still the biggest form of resistance that I face.
Kramer addresses resistance as “the way we build security in our life involves habits that we are often not conscious of. Some habits are necessary. [However, they can] become dangerous if we unconsciously let them direct our lives” (Kramer, 166). While Kramer does not say that we we must drop or reform all of our habits he does stress how being unaware can create tension in our bodies and prevent people from evolving physically and spiritually.
Furthermore, “resistance to doing yoga is often feedback that your practice has become stale and habit-bound” (Kramer, 167). While daily yoga practice is relatively new to my life – I can hardly imagine that my practice has become stale – I have found that my ego wants to edge it out altogether. I would rather forego my daily disciplines and stay within my comfort zone than discover something new or have to give up time spent with friends, family, food or actives I enjoy. Deepak Chopra has an affirmation on the importance of letting go of the ego, which I try to remember: by holding on to our egos (E-G-O) we are “Edging God Out.” Instead of making room for change, we cling to old habits which limit our growth. When we recognize the ego trying to take hold, it is important to remember to trust and to breathe, this helps us become more open, creating space for new life, opportunity and connections.
To underscore the validity of edges in my life and practice on and off the mat I will share my
observances of ongoing challenges and how they present themselves as edges in my life:
Over the last few weeks I have felt a shift, a tendency towards sloth and resistance to most all of my practice. I want to flee during meditation. I do not want to stay still. I doubt myself and the requirements of this program. I rush through my meals or put off eating entirely. I have noticed patterns of impatience and frustration. My desire to relate to others is often trumped by my desire to overcome past obstacles and be understood. My journaling appears to have gotten stagnant as I overanalyze and dislike my formulaic entries or blog posts, all appear to be written as “this is what I did, how I did...” scenarios. My body has worn down and I have gotten sick.
Despite the resistance I sometimes feel towards my yoga practice, I love it. I have tried to take some more “me time” each day to reground myself so that my practice does not feel like a chore. While I feel like I have encountered a plateau in my physical practice, I am recognizing the edges in my life as indicators of what I can do to accept change, to improve and grow as an individual. Part of this also means learning to acknowledge the growth I have already experienced since the start of yoga teacher training!
As I continue the program, I will remember that practice is cyclical for many and that I am not alone in my plateau experience. Some days I will be more into it and other days I will want to resist. It is my hope that I can learn to play my edges so that I no longer desire to run away but that I return to my mat to explore my body and better understand myself on a daily basis.
Over the last few weeks I have felt a shift, a tendency towards sloth and resistance to most all of my practice. I want to flee during meditation. I do not want to stay still. I doubt myself and the requirements of this program. I rush through my meals or put off eating entirely. I have noticed patterns of impatience and frustration. My desire to relate to others is often trumped by my desire to overcome past obstacles and be understood. My journaling appears to have gotten stagnant as I overanalyze and dislike my formulaic entries or blog posts, all appear to be written as “this is what I did, how I did...” scenarios. My body has worn down and I have gotten sick.
Despite the resistance I sometimes feel towards my yoga practice, I love it. I have tried to take some more “me time” each day to reground myself so that my practice does not feel like a chore. While I feel like I have encountered a plateau in my physical practice, I am recognizing the edges in my life as indicators of what I can do to accept change, to improve and grow as an individual. Part of this also means learning to acknowledge the growth I have already experienced since the start of yoga teacher training!
As I continue the program, I will remember that practice is cyclical for many and that I am not alone in my plateau experience. Some days I will be more into it and other days I will want to resist. It is my hope that I can learn to play my edges so that I no longer desire to run away but that I return to my mat to explore my body and better understand myself on a daily basis.
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